I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again:
You cannot decide what’s NOT offensive to someone.
You. Cannot. Decide. What’s. NOT. Hurtful. To. Someone.
What does this mean?
It means that if someone says that they find something offensive/upsetting/etc., you have no right to say otherwise.
You literally cannot tell a person what they feel or do not feel.
If I hit you in the face with a frying pan and you shout, amongst obscurities, that it hurts and I said, “Nah, I don’t think it’s painful.”…Well that’s great but that still doesn’t stop the fact that your face is indented like a Tom and Jerry cartoon!
Just because I say that something isn’t painful, doesn’t mean that it isn’t!
"The frying pan in your face wasn’t meant to hurt you."
Well it did! It really hurt!
"I don’t feel pain when I get hit in the face with frying pans."
Well la-de-da for you! But it still hurts!
"Can’t you just get over it?"
Now replace the physical pain with mental pain and you’ll realize how ridiculous it sounds when you try to tell a person that they don’t feel something.